Preparing for change, and dealing with change are two different animals.
In my personal life I had been preparing for some major changes that I was very excited about. I had been waiting twenty years for these changes. Additionally I had been preparing for fifteen years for these changes. On Friday September 19th, I learned that none of these changes were going to be possible. Instead life must stay copacetic if you will. This means my hopes and dreams are not to come to pass presently.
Now, being a coach, there is a process for dealing with this. I help my clients with this all the time. Most times I can skip through the process, or go through it so quickly I don't even realize I did it.
However, this recent disappointment has truly required "The Process".
Now those of us from AOL Journals (J-Land) are dealing with this. It is hitting some harder then others. So... step one in the process...
IT IS OK TO BE MAD!!! Sometimes you have to give yourself permission to vent, and rant and stomp and kick, and throw things and cry!!!!
If you don't feel right about giving yourself permission....then let me give it to you.
Go Ahead!!! Be Mad For A While... and here is some music to do it by....
YouTube - Terri Clark - I Just Wanna Be Mad
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I truly believe that if everyone tries to stay together (via the bloglines or what ever methods necessary) they will find this format is totally awesome! Maybe some, Like Grandpa's Tomato Patch will need help, and like all good communities we need to help each other.
I'm mad too....I am not fond of change and I don't like having to figure it all out here! But, it is what it is...and we shall move forward!
((hugs))
Jeanne
Okay, I AM MAD! There, I got that out of my system. I am also excited to be learning new things, using this format and how to do things on my computer, so this change is beneficial! Just a pain in the a**!
I got angry, and now I'm just slightly over it. Getting angry just propels me into action. I'll get wrong more often than not but I tend to enjoy the journey over the destination. Sometimes. Thank you for your help.
I am glad I can rant and cry if I want, since I already did! Linda
Thanks for permission to be mad for a while, cause I am.
Hugs, Joyce
I'm made too, but maybe AOL did us a favor.
I bet you will like it just fine after awhile here. I'm liking it just fine after getting over a few snags :)..........alice
hey; I found your new spot! I added myself as a follower; not sure how that works but I'm there, LOL; can't figure out why my picture won't add there (well Koda's) but I'll work on that!
I'm so sorry about not going good in your personal life :( I'm sure that is hard to deal with
looking forward to following you in your new home here; I think it will be a good move once we all settle in :)
have a great weekend!
betty
hi rosemary thanks for the permission to rant!! I think I do it too much!!lol your new blog is looking great!
my new blogs are
http://eternity-mrst.blogspot.com
and
http://thelilacdiary.blogspot.com
take care
mrs t xx
HEY ROSEMARY!
I havent seen you on aim in awhile so I thought that I would drop by and welcome you to the new home Ive been wondering if you'd ever comment on my entries LOLOLOL hahahaha I know! I even made it bigger to where you can see where to click to comment at the bottom of the entries JUST FOR YOU HAHAHAHA!
anyways...... just stopping by to say hi and welcome ya!
~ Christopher ~
http://cmarlow480.blogspot.com/
Stopping in to say hi...hope you have a great week..Hugs,TerryAnn
Ah Rosemary, I'm smiling once again...thanks to you:) I wonder if you realize that you truly are an Inspiration! I'm smiling because not only have I only recently learned that it is 'okay' to be MAD, I often forget...and here you remind me. I'm also smiling because, although I am sorry to read of your (temporary) disappointments, you have still managed to think clearly and actually post a link to find you on this new blogger site - such a wonderful idea! Thanks and I hope you are well and happy:)
Wow! It's been quite a while since you posted. Everything OK?
Karen
just stopped in to say hi; hope you are doing okay
betty
Great post! I feel the need to get mad sometimes too. Not even, not resentful, not earthshakingly mad -- just mad. I have had that kind of three weeks where i deserve to be mad. as a matter of fact, when i was away amongst the other cancer survivors and their wives, well, it became evident that some of the spouses just wouldn't make it. As in die. Well, this made the others resent John and me sooooooooo much that they became mean and nasty. One lady said she wished my husband were sick or dead. Talk about mad!!! I am still mad. Hurt and mad. Then they did other things... oh never mind, it is not worth mentioning it. Just suffice it to say I am MAD.
By the way, I am now a follower of you. I migrated my main blog also. It is http://sometimesithink-krissy.blogspot.com known as Sometimes I Think. Check it out! I also started one called JLand Refugees so we can all know each other's addresses:
http://jlandrefugees.blogspot.com
love you, krissy :)
Such an amazing post, I have decided to become a follower. Well done!
Sal
Hey girl, where are you? I am sure you are okay, just very, very busy. I hope you get to get back to blogging soon, because you have so much to offer.
By the way, I want to make a correction to my last comment. The name and address of the blogs directory I am working on has changed. It is called from jland to blogger, and it is a blog directory of all those who have come, well, from jland to blogger! Eventually I will include native Bloggers, b/c I don't think we should be exclusive. And it is going to be more than a blogs directory, I am hoping to make it interactive of sorts, but more on that later...
the address for the blog is http://fromjlandtoblogger.blogspot.com
Please stop by and add your blog under the appropriate letter, so that everyone can find you!
Then take a look and find some of your friends! Of course there are so many more people i need to add to the directory... But please stop by and add your blog...
Love you, Krissy :)
Are you STILL busy being mad? Miss seeing you around! Hope all is well in your world.
Hi Rosemary. Where are you? I really really miss you, and our talks. I think about them a lot. You've helped me more than you'll ever know. More than you will ever know.
Is there something I can do for you now? Write you a testimony perhaps? A paper for something? Help with a website? Just email me and let me know...
I'm just stopping by to see how you are because we haven't heard from you. I'm a little concerned. Not too concerned though. I'm sure you're just busy, taking care of life, and perhaps working some things through. I am so hoping you are getting to make some of your own dreams come true also. That's my prayer for you, girlie. I so desire that for you...
I also wanted to stop by and let you know that I appreciated you. I look at things through a different paradigm now. I'm positive. I've broken out of some sort of prison I was in, something that was holding me back.
I'm no longer negative, but now see solutions to problems in life, and have learned to work hard (and smart!) to accomplish what needs to be done. I see possibilities. You have taught me to look for them. That is what your coaching has done. Not just to know that there are possibilities, but to look for them. That I think, was one of the greatest gifts you gave me!
That and the ability to realize that I have the ability to create some of these possibilities, to find some of these possibilities within myself. I see now that I have some talents, and can find solutions to solve problems. I also have creativity -- the creativity to come up with the solutions to lots of problems that used to plague me. I can now figure out how to solve them, and I actually follow through.
I do believe this, unlike before. And I believe in hope. Hope for my future. Hope that a lot of things will change in my life.
You taught me problems would be solved. I do not believe that I have all the answers, but any stretch of the imagination. I depend on the Lord, far more than I depend on myself. I do cherish the gifts and talents He has given me, however, and the common sense and ability to look at things creatively, with an open mind. And the determination not to give up until my goals are accomplished.
To you I owe a lot of gratitude for this. I know what you are thinking right now. That it really didn't have as much to do with you as it did with me, and that I worked hard. But that's simply not true... You helped me see that with the resources I had within, and the great help of the Lord, I could change my life and my destiny. For this I will be forever grateful...
Now girl, come back and let us know where you are, what you have been up to. Please. At leastemail me! I imagine you are simply busy, but, I am concerned. Let us know what is going on. Please post or email.
Love,
Krissy :)
visit my main blog: Sometimes I Think
Hey Jlanders! Please post your blogs in the Directory of Blogs: from jland to blogger
Rosemary, It is now the end of November and where are you? We have pretty much found all of our little group. I hope everything is ok. Marlene
Merry Christmas Rosemary!!!! I hope you are doing okay!!!!
betty
Well??? here it is January 9, 2009 and you are MIA. We miss you!
Rosemary, where are you? It's okay you're not here, except that we worry about you. No, not worry, we just wonder what you're up to. Could you email? Pwetty pwease? LOL. Anyway, I'm having a good year so far. Hope you are too. I'm praying for you, that you have a great 2009. May you have lots of breakthroughs this year. Even if you may be working on lots of things that you need to right now, that doesnt' mean you're not moving forward. It means you are moving forward. and I know you are, so I am not going to worry about you. I'll keep praying for you though. ;) Love you,
krissy knox :)
my main blog: Sometimes I Think
Hey Jlanders (former AOL bloggers)! Please post your blogs in the Directory of Blogs: from jland to blogger
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